Let me paint this picture for you. I am at the gym feeling myself, doing my weekly gym rotation when an angel from above (Ariana Grande) drops a new track. I’m in the mirror at the gym living out my fantasy as one of her back up dancers jamming out to this new track while all of the older gym members are staring at me. Listen, being fabulous comes at a price and sometimes dancing like nobody is watching is the price you have to pay. Turning heads since 1995.
In all serious this song actually had me thinking about all of the bullshit that this dating world puts on single people like myself. Now I would like to consider myself a decent dater. I don’t go out on a ton of dates but, it takes a large portion of myself to open another part of me to another person. And let me tell you the frogs that this prince has kissed will make the arrival of my prince charming that much more gratifying.
I have every story you can imagine from men answering the door in nothing but booty shorts, to a person who was a little too honest on our first date liking to be spanked….hard, the emotionally unavailable, and a boy who was too privileged and told me he just finished really hard with another man. These are just a few stories and who knows if the interest is there I can sure as hell go into detail further about some of these but, all of these situations pointed me toward one thing…..
DELETE THE APPS. Tinder, Grindr, Scruff the list goes on and on… and I threw them all away with a lock and key and have never felt better.
The things that these men were offering was not what I wanted to take.
For a long time I thought it was me. Now don’t get me wrong I have flaws and I’m not afraid to admit them but, the man that I was looking for did not consist of sending me butthole pictures and asking me if I was “looking.”
No sir I don’t want a picture of your crusty old butthole that looks like an older person pursed their lips together and no sir the only thing that I am “looking” for is someone who has their shit together, isn’t afraid to make me laugh, and isn’t going to try and take my underwear off on the first date.
LET ME TELL YOU…I am no prude and like every other person I have needs but, there is a time and a place for everything.
I have always thought to myself maybe I am being way too picky about these situations, but, I thought to myself NO. I have worked too damn hard on myself for years to put myself first and love who I am, and just because I’m not going to settle for anything less than what I deserve does not make me picky. So if I have to kiss a hundred more frogs before my prince charming comes barging through the door on his very slow turtle that hes been traveling to me on SO BE IT.
I want every person who is single, with someone or just reading this for fun to know that whatever relationship, or dating drama they are going through that they are not alone. Dating is tough and certainly like the Amazonian Jungle. Take the confidence that I know all of you have and go out there and SLAY the dating field away.
One of my best friends sent me a quote that is so important to go by especially, if you re single and ready to mingle:
“Stop wondering if you’re good enough for other people and start wondering if they’re good enough for you.”
Be confident. Be Bold. Raise. Each. Other. Up.
And to that I say thank u, next.
XO Always, A Gay in the Life of Nikos.